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I bought this because I've seen it recommended on a YouTube video, and I kept seeing it being referred to elsewhere.
On the back cover, it has a quote saying that this is the only book you'll ever need. I don't totally agree with that. I've read, The Manual: What Women Want and How to Give it to Them, which I also found helpful, especially the chapter about Responsibility. I also felt Ignore and Score was good. My point is, I don't believe this one book will ever be a one stop shop. No book ever is, regardless of the subject, necessarily.
The book goes to deep lengths to talk about NEEDINESS. The scariest word in the dictionary when it comes to dating. You know that feeling where you want to talk to a lady, and the first thought that goes through your mind is, "how do I suppress my awkwardness as to not make it obvious that I'm afraid?" When I want to approach a lady, the thoughts that cross my mind are like the following:
What can I say to her in order to prevent the "he wants me in bed" alarm/alert from going off??
How do I act as convincing as possible that the reason I'm asking for her number is so that we can study, when the truth is I want to take her on a romantic date?
My point is, when I ask for her number, or speak to a woman who I'm interested in, in general, I always have heart pounding fears about her realising how badly I want her, and how much I'm hoping she won't reject me. But, according to the author, if you even so much as FEEL any of those ways, the reason is because you are needy. And essentially, if you're needy, according to the author, there is no effective long term way around it. Unless you CORRECT your neediness, it will be a very substantial problem. And most of the book talks about ways to reduce neediness. It discusses ways to improve you're looks, by going to a gym and buying clothes, by grooming and being clean, and psychological techniques to improve communication skills, and tools to help you stop judging women as being a slut, even thought we sometimes automatically assume it to be the case.
Another part I wanted to point out was where the title suggests attracting women with honesty. The title is very misleading, I feel, because the title makes it seem as if the author is recommending that honesty is a "good path" to take when trying to attract women. However, while reading the book, you will see that Mark Manson has a totally different reason. He states that no matter how hard you try to hide your intentions (being dishonest), it's essentially not possible. He's not asking you to attract women through honesty; he's telling you that you blatantly have no choice. He's basically telling you that no matter what you do, no matter how hard you try to cover up feeling needy, they will know exactly what you're up to.
And another part about the book that conflicts with a moral taught in The Manual (the other book I read), The Manual speaks of Resistence versus Rejection.It explains how even if it looks like you're being rejected, she may just be resisting, which still leaves the door opened up to future possibilities. With Models, however, Mark Mason strongly suggests that THE MOMENT you see that she's not interested, you should move on ASAP. Although, of course, there's a chapter that talks about "Polarisation," where the author shows you how to DETECT if she's interested, but he still sticks to the same idea; if they are not interested, move ON!
The whole moral of the story of this book is, neediness is your biggest problem, and it must be taken care of no matter WHAT. And, you CANNOT hide neediness. And, if they're not interested, there's no point in changing her mind. Either she likes you, or she don't. Period!
Another point I wanted to point out was about being honest about your attraction, and being needy. He used an example about her phone ringing and getting gag reflex. I can relate to that feeling. Sometimes your boss might call you, and the moment you see the caller ID, you feel like throwing up. So, if that's the feeling some of these girls feel when you try calling them, I can understand the author's prospective on moving on. However, I also feel somewhat skeptical about it too.
Yes there are plenty of times in our lives when we feel awkward, or uncomfortable when the phone rings or we get a text. But I also get that gag reflex when my alarm goes off in the morning, or when I have a presentation to do. There are lots of events in our lives that give us gag reflex. However, according to the famous scientist, Pavlov, we are CONDITIONED to these reactions through learned behaviour. If for example, a girl were to find out that you were actually a much nicer guy then all the others ringing her phone, she would no longer get gag reflex. It's all about psychology; and I don't believe it's always the appropriate thing to move on right away, depends.
Also, I find the author to be somewhat hypocritical, because he states that most women will not find you attractive, and the expectation that they do is only an illusion. However, later in the book he continued to state that he himself had indeed slept with hundreds of women, which I feel is inconsistent with what he said earlier. Either he thinks he's way more attractive than the average reader of his book, or I misinterpreted his meaning when he said "most women" won't find you attractive.
I'm happy I read it, because I wanted to read this book for awhile, but I never came around to doing so until now. I never fully agree with any author 100% in any book I read, so I'm not totally agreeing or disagreeing with everything in this book. After reading this, I feel it was very interesting. There's lots and lots of other very valuable dating lessons and advice in here that overwhelmed me in a positive way. I wanted to re-read it from the beginning in order to highlight all the key points so that I could write a much more thorough review to help readers decide on whether to purchase this, but instead of being a perfectionist, I'll just leave this like it is and move on to new books. The next one I plan to read is, The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships. But for the time being, I feel you will enjoy reading Models Attract Women Through Honesty by Mark Manson. You will learn plenty of valuable tips from this book.
I almost forgot to add, there are chapters dedicated to improving your appearance. It specifically stated to go in your closet and throw out everything in the garbage that doesn't fit you. I literally trashed three garbage bags of old, raggy, hand me down trash that's been laying dormant in my closet. I have been trying very hard to improve my attire, and I thank the author for enlightening me with the idea.